Do you ever feel like your partner just doesn’t understand you? That they don’t know how to make you feel loved? This may be because you have different love languages. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. In this blog post, we will discuss each of these love languages and give tips on how to romantically connect with your partner using them!
Words of Affirmation
If words of affirmation are your partner’s love language, then they will feel especially loved and connected to you when you give them compliments and express how much you care about them. One way to show your partner how much you love them is to write them a heartfelt letter expressing all the reasons why you love them. Another way to show your affection is to tell them three things you love about them each day. This helps to keep the romance alive and lets your partner know that they are always on your mind. If words of affirmation are your partner’s love language, then make an extra effort to express your love for them in words and you will see just how connected and cherished they feel.
Today’s Challenge: Write a handwritten letter for your partner expressing why you love them!
Sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most. If your partner’s love language is Receiving Gifts, then they feel loved and appreciated when you give them presents. This doesn’t have to be something expensive or extravagant; something as simple as a card or a piece of jewelry can make them feel special and loved. If you want to connect with your partner in a romantic way using this love language, try surprising them with a small gift that is meaningful to them. Or, write them a heartfelt message and slip it into their lunch bag before they go to work. No matter what you do, they’ll appreciate the thoughtfulness and effort behind it.
Today’s Challenge: Pick up some flowers or a gift card to their favorite breakfast spot and see how delighted your partner will be!
Acts of Service
If acts of service are your partner’s love language, then they will feel especially connected to you when you do something special for them. This could be anything from doing the dishes after dinner to running errands on their behalf. Doing things that you know they would appreciate. Or, offer to help them with a project they are working on. By showing your partner you’re willing to go the extra mile, you’ll let them know they are appreciated and loved.
Today’s Challenge: Offer to do the grocery run before dinner and surprise them with a foot massage at the end of the night!
If your partner’s love language is quality time, they feel loved when they have your undivided attention. To connect with your partner romantically using this love language, try planning a date night where you can focus on each other without any distractions. This can be something as simple as cooking dinner together or going for a walk in the park. Alternatively, set aside sometime each day to talk to your partner about their day and really listen to what they have to say. This can be a great way to show them that you care about them and are interested in their life. Whatever you do, make sure that you are present with your partner and focused on them. This will let them know that they are the most important person in your life.
Today’s Challenge: Plan a date night with your partner and make sure you give them your undivided attention!
If your partner’s love language is physical touch, they feel connected to you through physical affection. This could be anything from a hug or a kiss on the forehead to holding hands during a stroll in the park. To really connect with your partner in a romantic way, try cuddling up with them while watching their favorite show or surprising them with a back rub in the shower before bedtime. Whatever you do, make sure that you’re mindful and present in the moment, as this will let them know just how much they mean to you.
Today’s Challenge: Place your arm around your partner or hold hands while out and about!
What can we summarize?
No matter what your partner’s love language is, there are ways that you can connect with them romantically and make them feel loved. If you are not sure what your partner’s love language is, ask them! They will be more than happy to tell you. And once you know their love language, use it to your advantage and watch your relationship blossom!
I have attached the link for the original Love Language Quiz, so feel free to just copy it, or you can always forward them our little blog post!
Talk soon! xoxo