It’s a “new year” and a “new you”! Right!!?…
Well, a new year brings change, growth, and reflection… Time to move on from that situation-ship you’ve been in for too long.
Let’s talk about it…
Situationships have their purpose. They’re a great way to explore your feelings and get to know someone better without the pressure of commitment. Maybe you both are very focused on other priorities and nurturing a committed relationship is just not feasible right now, but you still want to explore and have a connection with someone. This is when situationships can come in handy.
But there comes a time when it’s no longer working for you, or the other person. Someone has caught feelings that the other person does not share, and there seems to be no inkling that those feelings are developing. And why would there be? They literally told you that they did not want a relationship.
So the time has come to move on. Here are a few tips to get you started in the right direction.
The first thing you need to know is why are you ending it?
Do you want a more committed relationship? Is the connection no longer satisfying? Has someone new entered the picture? Is this now a third-party situation that you didn’t expect?
It’s important to know specifically why you are ending the situationship and to communicate that with your partner. This will help you both move on in a healthy way, creating respect for each other’s feelings and allowing you to have closure.
Next, let your partner know that you appreciate all the time you’ve spent together and how it has helped you to grow. Even though the situationship is ending, thank them sincerely for their part in what you have shared.
Now comes the hard part: Moving on physically and emotionally.
It’s easy to tell you to “block them on everything”, but why? If you are leaving this situation on a good note, I would suggest you just unfollow them, but not block them.
For two reasons:
Reason #1: If you are the one that has developed the feelings, it does you know good to constantly be reminded of how good they look, or how good they are at something.
Reason #2: It will show your partner that you are serious about ending the convenient relationship and you are no longer focusing on them.
Along with those two reasons, knowing that they are still checking your socials will also encourage you to post your best photos, videos, and angles. Nothing like a free boost of confidence! So, don’t block them, challenge yourself to “grow through what you go through”.
Finally, it’s time to start exploring new connections. Don’t let your “old flame” hold you back from meeting someone who is more ready for a committed relationship.
The best advice that I can give when transitioning out of a situationship is to not look back. Enjoy being single, exploring different people, setting firm boundaries, and understanding what type of connection you want in the future.
The last thing you want to do is end up in the same type of situation you just left with someone new. So make sure that you know why this is no longer working for you and what it is you really desire and stick to it!
There is something special about learning to be independent and finding out what makes you feel whole, before connecting with someone new. So take your time and enjoy this journey to self-love and growth!
Good luck and Happy New Year!
“It takes courage to let go of something that once felt so right but was no longer fulfilling you.”Alisha todd