No one enters into a relationship expecting it to go wrong, but unfortunately, sometimes things don’t work out the way we plan. If you’re starting to get serious with someone new, it’s important to be aware of the nine yellow flags that could indicate that your relationship isn’t as healthy as it seems.
By being aware of these signs, you can decide if it’s worth continuing or if you should move on. So, without further ado, here are nine yellow flags to look out for in your next relationship!
One-sided relationships are never healthy. If you find yourself always being the one to initiate contact, make plans, or put in the effort, it’s time to move on. A relationship should be a two-way street, and if it’s not, it’s not worth your time. This also goes hand & hand with maintaining your feminine energy in relationships. We touched on that a bit here.
2. Lack of Communication
Communication is key in any relationship, and if you’re not able to communicate with your partner, it’s time to move on. If you’re constantly struggling to have a conversation or you’re not on the same page, likely, things will only get worse as time goes on.
A little bit of jealousy can be healthy in a relationship, but if it’s constantly causing problems, it’s time to move re-evaluate your relationship. If your partner is always accusing you of cheating or they’re preventing you from seeing certain people, it’s not worth your time.
4. Different Values
If two partners don’t share fundamental values and beliefs, it may be difficult to sustain a long-term relationship. Partners should have an understanding of each others’ spiritual or religious beliefs as well. A couple should respect one another’s individual opinions, ideas, and feelings even if they don’t always agree.
If you can’t trust your partner, it’s time to move on. If they’re constantly lying to you or keeping secrets, it’s not going to work out.
6. Lack of respect
If your partner doesn’t respect you, it’s time to move go and don’t look back! If they’re always putting you down or making you feel bad about yourself, please don’t go down the rabbit hole of self-hate. It’s not worth your time and they don’t deserve you. Period.
7. Unhealthy dependencies
If your partner is always leaning on you for support or they’re excessively clingy, it might be time to move on. While it’s important to be there for each other, it’s not healthy if it’s always one-sided.
If you have been experiencing negativity from your partner, it’s time for a change. You deserve better! It can be difficult to break up with someone who has been negative and complaining about everything but if their attitude does not improve then there is no other option than ending this relationship before things get worse.
"I will always love ____ even though we're not a good fit."
9. Avoiding Conflict
One of the most difficult things to deal with when you’re in a relationship is not talking about issues. When one partner refuses to talk about an issue, it can be a sign that they’re not willing or able to compromise. This may lead their lover/partner feeling resentment and bitterness towards them which will most likely destroy any chance of happiness in both lives. The best way to address this problem is to create a safe space where both partners can openly express their feelings and listen to each other without judgment.
“Yellow flags flash just as brightly as red flags, it’s up to each one of us… men and women, to pay attention and see what’s there.”– alisha todd
What can we summarize?
If you are in a relationship and see any of these nine yellow flags, it is time to have a serious conversation with your partner. However, if you’re feeling brave and decide to stay with that person anyway, remember that communication is key. The earlier you address the issues, the easier they will be to fix. Remember, relationships should make both partners happy and fulfilled; if yours isn’t meeting that criteria, it might be time to reassess what it is you really want and what you need to do to get it.
Have you ever been in a relationship where you saw one (or more) of these nine red flags? What did you do about it?